Have you ever been misinterpreted in email correspondence? Do you ever risk offending your recipient when simply trying to convey or ask something? Worse yet, have you ever struggled with how to deliver unfortunate news without completely offending your recipient? If you have ever been on the receviving end of a cold or unpleasant email, you know how easy it can be to offend through this form of communication.
The difficulty we face when communicating through email is that we lack that which we so heavily rely on when communicating face to face: nonverbal communication. Wikipedia defines nonverbal communication as “the process of communication through sending and receiving wordless messages.” This includes communication through gesture, touch, body language, facial expression, eye contact, and even paralanguage-voice quality, emotion, and speaking style. So, the problem email communication poses is that we are limited entirely to communication through sending and receiving of words themselves. When we are limited to communicating through words and words alone, much of the human element is suddenly removed, and the ability to manage tone becomes much more challenging. Because of this, you have to work even harder to be cordial with words than you might if you were in front of the person, able to shake their hand, make eye contact, and smile.
Here’s an example of an email that can easily put the recipient on defense:
Hi Jim,
Do you have an ETA on when I can expect to see the budget reports for last quarter?
Thanks,
Jessica
Sure, the email above addresses the person and even says “thanks” with a signature at the closing, but it’s still pretty cold and offensive in tone. So, how could you easily rewrite the same email with a warmer, less offensive tone? See below:
Hi Jim,
I hope you enjoyed the long weekend! : )
Do you have an ETA on when I can expect to see the budget reports for last quarter?
Thank you so much for your help! I look forward to seeing you at the company picnic on Thursday!
Regards,
Jessica
This new email asks the same question about the timing on the budget reports, but it is “sandwiched” between friendly messages to the recipient. Here’s how the sandwich effect works: you start and end your emails with a cordial, human element, such as a greeting, personal question, or other friendly touch such as emoticons. This works especially well when you need to convey information that isn’t entirely pleasant or seems demanding. In the new email above, “the meat” of the email, which asks about the report delivery timing is sandwiched between “the bread” at the beginning and end of the email, which is cordial and personable. Although this may seem like a lot of “niceness” to simply ask one question, you really have to go out of your way to be cordial when you’re limited to only written communication.
Integrating the email sandwich effect in your communications is an easy way to get business done and still have good relationships with your colleagues at the end of the day!
-Jessica Nielsen, Principal & Dir. of Marketing Communications